Know Your Strengths. Our weaknesses are always shouting out for our attention. Needy buggers. Try to instead focus on your strengths. You have so many. Focus on them and use them daily. List them out so you never forget what they are. Build your life around them.
Maintain a proper diet and get enough sleep. Food can often be used as a source of comfort for those feeling sad or depressed, but it is important to maintain a healthy diet and get enough sleep to function properly, especially while grieving. It takes a lot of energy to grieve; physically, emotionally, and mentally. It is essential that our body’s are nourished and well-rested to navigate this difficult process.
Accept a little clutter and mess. Just let it be. Some dust and a little dirt has never hurt anyone. Focus on what’s important to you, you can always clean up the mess later. Just don’t go around and feel bad about it on top of everything else!
Journal. Writing your thoughts and feelings in your diary or on a blog is self care therapy that does not cost you a single cent. Expressing our emotions, whether it is talking to a friend, meeting with a therapist, or simply writing your thoughts down in a journal can be very powerful and cathartic.
Learn to accept what is. Stop pushing. Sometimes you have to accept things as they are. Things you can’t change. Things you can’t help but feel. Give yourself a break. Stop trying to wade upstream at high tide. Wait it out. Take a breather and go where the current takes you. You can’t control everything so sometimes you have to trust that the current of life will take you where you need to be.
Have a self date. Spend an hour alone doing something that nourishes you. Read a book, listen to your favourite music, take up a new hobby. Take the time to get to know yourself again.
Activate your self-soothing system. Stroke your arm or give yourself a big bear hug. Studies show that these simple acts can lower feelings of stress or tension. And if both of those feel too weird, try moisturizing.
Punctuate your day with a mini-meditation. Practice one minute of awareness of your thoughts, feelings, and sensations; one minute of focused attention on breathing; and one minute of awareness of the body as a whole. Get to know yourself.
Develop a strong, supportive network – be willing to ask for help if you need it. You do not have to carry your burdens alone. Acknowledge the courage and bravery it takes to ask others for help in a time of need.
Take time each day to do something restful just for you – a walk, a soothing bath, massage, reading a book, beautiful music, or a relaxation tape.
Breathe. Frustrated? Breathe in. Breathe out. Worried? Breathe in. Breathe out. Overwhelmed? Breathe in. Breathe out. Confused? Breathe in. Breathe out. Exhausted? Breathe in. Breathe out. Start there and you can often avoid over-thinking and over-reacting.
Laughter is powerful medicine for soothing both body and mind. It can boost your immune system, reduce pain, and serves as a protective factor against the ravages of stress.
Take an afternoon nap. If you are feeling tired during the day, take a nap. No excuses are needed, even if you end up sleeping way longer than what is considered a power nap.